Relationships

Have you ever felt a joy so good that it hurts? Like have you ever loved to the point that if you just really sit back and think about that very special person that it brings a tear to your eyes? Love... It is one of the most unexplainable words in any language. I can try to explain but it is a feeling. If you truly love someone or something, you make sacrifices that you would never make in a million years make, which you made for that person/ thing. Is it right that you should have to sacrifice? I am not saying that it is but if you love that person then you would do what it takes to make and keep that person happy. But it should be as long as it doesn't conflict with your personal values or beliefs. That person should be selfless enough to understand also. But it should be mutual. It shouldn't just be one side that should make sacrifices if sacrifices are needed.
People get the misconception that love is perfect, that there will be no arguements or fights. Love is when you can be at each others throats but still go to bed together, look each other in the face and tell one another that you love them more than anything else in the world. You wake up the next morning and talk about what the arguement was about. Maybe it will resolve itself! True love is when you can do absolutely nothing together and it still be the best time of your life.
A lot of people gave up on love because someone claimed to love them when they really didn't. What if someone who knows how to love comes around? Are you going to shut that person out also? In my opinion you have to be a very selfless person to truly love someone. If you have selfish intentions how can you truly love? If nobody comes before you then how can you speak those words "I love you" and truly mean it? People nowadays give up too easily. Mainly because they rely on "love" for everything. A relationship between a male and female should be about companionship as well as love. A companion is simply one who is closely connected to another. A companion is someone who shares the same or closely similar views on subjects like children, finances and goals that they plan on obtaining as a family. This is why marriages fail, because of the lack of companionship. They rely on "love" to get them through rough times.
Another reason why relationship fail is because of the lack of connection. It is because the lack of emotional, spiritual, mental and physical connections. I believe that the connection sequence should be mental, spiritual, emotional and lastly physical. I say this because you first want someone who is on or close to the same mental level as your. Often times spouses look down on each other because of the lack of the same mentality. Next is the spiritual connection because spirituality is a big factor in reltionships. It is not nessacarily having the same religious beliefs or backgrounds but being able to come to terms with the oneness of God and the surroundings. If you can accomplish this together it is a beautiful feeling. If you don't come from the same religious background you have to have complete respect for the other religion and have an openess to it also. Families often break because of this. Next will be the emotional connection. This is pretty self-explainatory. Of course an emotional connection is needed because you want to be happy, not just content. It is good to have someone that can support you financially but it is even better if you have someone that can support you emotionally as well. Lack of this eventually leads to the lack of physical connection. Yes and lastly the physical connection. I have had past relationships where the physical connection happened first. Everytime it was unsuccessful. A relationship will not work if this is so. It clouds your judgement. The "physical" makes your opinions biased. This should be held off so you can get to know he/she for what he/she believes in, how that person thinks and etc. And you cannot accomplish this by acting on the physical first. Of course it is for the best if you have someone that you are physically attracted to but if a person will treat you with respect, love you and provide for you surely that person will become beautiful and precious to you because beauty is truly is in the eyes of the beholder. People act off carnal insitinct. And think it is often love. They forget all of the other connections and just think about the physial connection. This relationship will not succeed for long.
Everything that I have written is my opinion. I based this on my past relationships and also on relationsips I have seen succeed and fail. Just ask youself what is your relationship based on. Is this the person I will marry? Realisticly answer that and with a mature state of mind. If not then why are you in that relationship? Is it based on just "love" or true companionship? Surely if you are mature enough to answer these questions truthfully you will no doubt have a successful relationship. Once again this is just my opinion...